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Are Smartphones Damaging Your Relationship?

Smartphones skew our connection to the world by making us focus more on the people who are not present rather than those who are present with us.

Coping With Loneliness

Depression, Emotional Pain, Self Love

We experience loneliness because we are social beings who are biologically programmed to be in a relationship. When the relationship aspect is missing, we feel lonely.

If You Deserve Something Why Don’t You Have It?

Change, Depression, Failure

It is common to hear people complain that they work so hard, try everything that they know but can never seem to get ahead.

I Need a New Head - This One Is Thinking Too Much

The Answer to this Question Determines What Happens Next

Change, Relationships, Self Love

Because we know that not all relationships are beneficial for us, we approach any relationship with one question in mind.

Resolving the Impact of the Past on Your Relationship

When Late Becomes Too Late

Change, Communication, Emotional Pain, Relationships

Some couples came to see me in the hopes of repairing their relationship last month, but they have left things to go to the point that extensive damage has occurred in their relationship.

If You are Feeling Powerless Here is What You Need to Know

Change

The past is a collection of life experiences. The future currently does not exist. Change can only occur in what's called the present moment.

StartPoint Counselling Down the Rabbit Hole

How to Turn around your Descent into Depression

Change, Depression, Emotional Pain

The further you go down the rabbit hole that harder it is to get back out and the worst everything looks and becomes.

Does My Child Need to See a Counsellor?

Change, Emotional Pain, Relationships

Sometimes children can benefit from therapy. It may address some issues the school has told you about, attention difficulties, difficulty managing tasks and getting upset or angry or complaints of being bullied or doing the bullying.

How to Command Your Brain to Find Opportunities

Change, Self Love

It is not sufficient to want something because someone else has it. You must want it for yourself.

Why It Takes More Than Being Ready to Succeed

Change, Failure

So ready means that you are prepared for things to change but without being willing for things to change nothing will change.

How to Stop Re-occurring Relationship Problems

Communication, Emotional Pain, Relationships, Self Love, Trust

Our experiences with our caregivers create within us the means by which we understand the world, ourselves and how relationships work.

Five Stages of a Relationship – Which one are you at?

Change, Communication, Emotional Pain, Relationships, Trust

The Development Model shows relationships going through five stages. The stage that you are at indicates how the relationship is developing.

Did You Believe this Lie?

Change, Emotional Pain, Failure, Self Love, Trust

One of the greatest lies ever told is that we are ordinary or average. We are never ordinary or average. Each one of us has talents and skills to use to follow a path which will then enrich our lives and those around us.

How to Heal Shame

Change, Emotional Pain, Failure, Self Love

Shame causes us to overreact to things that happen in our lives as these events trigger painful and shameful memories which can lead to reactions of anger and despair.

Is Shame Limiting Your Success?

Change, Emotional Pain, Failure, Self Love

Shame is an inner experience. It is a sense of not being wanted, unlovable, and a belief that one is fundamentally bad producing a feeling of not belonging.

How to Stop Needing Other People’s Approval

Change, Self Love, Trust

By relying on others approval, we sabotage ourselves by placing obstacles in our path and striving for unachievable goals.

The Danger With the Same Word Meaning Different Things

Communication

This difference in meaning leads to misunderstanding and at times conflict. This sort of conflict is something that we see often at StartPoint Counselling.

How Normal Can Create a Relationship Problem

Why doesn’t Your Partner see Things the Way You do?

Communication, Relationships

It is so frustrating when you can see a solution to something or view a particular situation in a different way to your partner and they just don't get it. This type of frustration is the foundation for many an argument.

Improving Your Relationships by Loving Yourself

Self Love

The very basic relationship that affects all others is our relationship to ourselves. Need help with loving yourself? StartPoint Counselling is here to help.

Repairing Broken Trust

Trust

Breaking the trust in a relationship cannot be fixed by confining the problem to the past and moving on. Rather the untrustworthy party must show they clearly understand what their partner has felt and experienced. Without this step, what follows will not be undertaken with the seriousness that it deserves.

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