School Holiday breaks always seem like a demanding time of year. There are kids to keep entertained, the house to prepare for visitors or travel to be with family and so on. There are so many things that you must focus on.
If you can’t take care of yourself first, then you will have nothing left to give to others or to put it another way, if you don’t have it, you can’t give it.
We experience loneliness because we are social beings who are biologically programmed to be in a relationship. When the relationship aspect is missing, we feel lonely.
Because we know that not all relationships are beneficial for us, we approach any relationship with one question in mind.
It is not sufficient to want something because someone else has it. You must want it for yourself.
Our experiences with our caregivers create within us the means by which we understand the world, ourselves and how relationships work.
One of the greatest lies ever told is that we are ordinary or average. We are never ordinary or average. Each one of us has talents and skills to use to follow a path which will then enrich our lives and those around us.
Shame causes us to overreact to things that happen in our lives as these events trigger painful and shameful memories which can lead to reactions of anger and despair.
Shame is an inner experience. It is a sense of not being wanted, unlovable, and a belief that one is fundamentally bad producing a feeling of not belonging.
By relying on others approval, we sabotage ourselves by placing obstacles in our path and striving for unachievable goals.
The very basic relationship that affects all others is our relationship to ourselves. Need help with loving yourself? StartPoint Counselling is here to help.
While life follows a safe routine day-to-day, and I know what I’m doing and what’s likely to happen, I have a certain degree of security and an idea of who I am. However, life is currently changing, and we are not quite sure where it can end up or indeed, how it is going to look.
