Broken trust in a relationship cannot be fixed by confining the problem to the past and moving on. There is no simple way to undo the damage. To commence the process of rebuilding trust the untrustworthy party must show they clearly understand what their partner has felt and experienced.
Every case of broken trust impacts us on three levels, and the damage on each of these levels is what holds us back from healing the broken trust and moving on. It doesn’t matter whether the broken trust is real or perceived; impact occurs on these three levels.
Two types of trust can exist in a relationship
Firstly, there is conditional trust which says I trust you only when I’m having a good experience. Secondly, there is unconditional trust. This type of trust develops in a relationship over time.
The Fourth Horseman is STONEWALLING
Stonewalling occurs when someone completely withdraws from a conflict discussion and no longer responds to their partner.
The Third Horseman is DEFENSIVENESS
Defensiveness is a self-protection mechanism which comes out in the form of moral outrage or evoking a sense of victimhood in an attempt to fend off a perceived attack.
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“I love my partner, but I am not in love with them”, is a common statement that relationship specialists hear during their work with couples. What exactly do we mean when we say this?
When it comes to the things that we want in our relationships, we tend to use very vague or generic terms. Since these terms are not clearly defined we have no idea how to get there.
Smartphones skew our connection to the world by making us focus more on the people who are not present rather than those who are present with us.
