How to Strengthen Trust in Your Relationship
Two types of trust can exist in a relationship
Before discussing how to strengthen trust in your relationship, we must first understand that there are two types of trust.
Firstly, conditional trust says I trust you only when I’m having a good experience. If I’m not having a good experience, then I don’t feel that you have my back and I don’t feel safe.
Secondly, there is unconditional trust. This type of trust develops in a relationship over time. We feel safe and secure with our partners, and we think that they have our back in both good times and bad.
Unconditional trust is the type of trust that can survive minor indiscretions in a relationship. If our partner for whom we have unconditional trust acts out of character, we realise that and work to resolve the issue.
What is Broken Trust?
Broken trust occurs when we perceive that something we have agreed on in our relationship does not happen.
When we talk about broken trust, many people focus on infidelity. But trust is also broken over time with an accumulation of small things such as not keeping your promises, not taking responsibility, inconsiderate behaviour or constantly missing important events.
Trust is paramount to the success of a relationship. We should be able to count on our partners. Many partners attempted to mask small issues with little white lies in the hopes that they will go unnoticed. Unfortunately, the trust is further damaged when the little white lies are exposed.
Overpromising and under-delivering is one sure way to cause the trust to disintegrate over time. Often, we over-promise in the hopes of keeping our partner happy. Unfortunately, in the long run, we’re damaging the relationship. Better to promise less and deliver more.
Keeping some secrets may seem harmless, but it slowly destroys your partner’s sense of security in the relationship. It, in effect, sends the message that there is a part of you that you are deliberately withholding from your partner. Healthy relationships have transparency as their foundation.
To KeepTrust Strong in Your Relationship
- Keep your promises – under-promise and over-deliver
- Take responsibility for your choices and actions – avoid blaming other people. People tend to trust people who take responsibility.
- Avoid inconsiderate behaviour – people need to feel that you are there for them before trust can exist.
- Avoid constantly missing important events – attending events that are important to your partner shows them that you are dependable and trustworthy.
- Be open and honest – don’t keep secrets from your partner
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