How to Get Unstuck and Out of the Rut
We will show you how we get stuck in patterns or, as people often say, get stuck in a rut. Once you understand what we’re about to share, you will also start to know how you can become unstuck and out of the rut.
Our Belief Systems Hold Us in a Rut
Every human being has belief systems. Our belief systems develop over our lifetime. It starts with what we learn from our birth family.
When we move out into the world, our belief systems become refined in response to circumstances that we are faced with until we reach our current age with a well-developed belief system. This belief system acts as a filter when we look at and experience the world.
Because our belief system acts as a filter, we only see the information that supports our belief system. There is a vast array of information that is available to us in any given situation. But as we look at all of that information, we only acknowledge a subset of it.
We only see what we believe, and then we respond to what we see both regarding what we think and how we feel. From that response of thoughts and feelings, we take action.
The Path Out of the Rut
Without gradually changing our belief systems, we will not see the additional information which can aid us to have a different reaction, a different action and corresponding different results. Therefore, we stay trapped in the same pattern or the same rut. It is not that we can’t make a change. It is more that we don’t have the awareness that we need to make the change.
When people come to a relationship specialist from StartPoint Counselling, they sometimes say they have resisted reaching out for help because they should be able to fix this themselves. This thought, however, overlooks the fact that without assistance, they may never change their awareness and without that change, they can never start to change their beliefs.
Without changing their beliefs, they can never see the information they need to make the changes that they want in their lives.
Beliefs Cloud Perception
Have you ever wondered why two people could look at the same thing and each draw a different conclusion? Their beliefs are causing them only to see certain parts of the information.
Have you ever wondered why two people can see the same car accident, and yet each has a different account of how it happened? Their beliefs are causing them only to see certain parts of the available information.
To develop different beliefs, you need:
- Willingness to change
- Gameness to work with someone who can bring you a new awareness about things
- Readiness to work with someone who can challenge you on your current beliefs
- Eagerness to learn strategies that help you do all this by yourself
Our beliefs and their effect on how we see and interpret our world affects every aspect of our lives. Our relationship specialists often see the impact on relationships when two beliefs systems clash and cause the relationship to become dull and stuck.
Fortunately, there are ways to become unstuck and build the quality relationships you want. StartPoint Counselling has helped many couples become unstuck from their rut and improve their communication to rebuild their relationships.
You’ll be amazed how counselling can help you better your communication
You will find that talking with StartPoint Counselling Beenleigh is your starting point for happy relationships and mental wellbeing.
StartPoint Counselling Practice is conveniently located in Beenleigh close to Logan, Mt Warren Park, Stapylton, Homeview, Waterford, Loganholme and Yatala areas. However we also offer phone consultations for your convenience, see more about Booking Appointments here.
We offer a 15-minute complimentary phone session with one of our experienced counsellors. Find out how we can help you to adjust your belief systems and equip you to change your relationship into one that you will want to be part of.