Articles from Our Counsellors

Disagreements can be a healthy part of a relationship. We are different people and, therefore, will not always see things the same way. When we disagree, we can express our needs and show our partner how we feel. This should happen in the present moment and shouldn't be linked to the past.

The same word "love" in the English language is used for multiple different types of love. When people say I love you, but I am not in love with you, they mean I care deeply about you, but I no longer have a connection.

When I'm having a conversation with somebody, there is one significant thing that gets in the way if I'm not careful. So in a conversation, a problem can occur when I am interacting with somebody and putting across how I feel and what I think about the topic.

Broken trust in a relationship cannot be fixed by confining the problem to the past and moving on. There is no simple way to undo the damage. To commence the process of rebuilding trust the untrustworthy party must show they clearly understand what their partner has felt and experienced.

Two types of trust can exist in a relationship Firstly, there is conditional trust which says I trust you only when I’m having a good experience. Secondly, there is unconditional trust. This type of trust develops in a relationship over time.

The Third Horseman is DEFENSIVENESS Defensiveness is a self-protection mechanism which comes out in the form of moral outrage or evoking a sense of victimhood in an attempt to fend off a perceived attack.