Relationship Pain Does Not Mean it is Over!

Discover the real drivers behind the issues that you see in your relationship. Learn the strategies that will work in your busy lifestyle. Bring the changes that you are looking for.

Design and achieve the relationship that you dream about.

Are You Feeling the Pain of…

Not being heard or respected

Not getting the attention that you deserve

Always being reminded of your past

Mental, emotional or physical abuse

Constant arguments

Broken trust

Being taken for granted

Loss of love and affection

Your simple solutions is here…

Relationships are Complex…

Relationships are as complex as the individuals that make up the relationship.

The reason your relationship is currently in trouble will be the result of several factors. Ranging from childhood experiences through to the ways in which you react. To the pressures of your current relationship. It is hard to identify and rectify these yourself.

Understanding Your Drives and Needs…

Understanding your drives and needs is the first step in empowering yourself.

Understanding others drives and needs is the foundation of healthy relationships.

We believe that a desire to understand yourself and others and a willingness to implement necessary changes, make relationship repair possible.

Our Counsellors

Specialise in strategies that are practical and easy to implement within a busy lifestyle.

Conduct a thorough analysis of your relationship and quickly pinpoint the drivers behind your relationship problems.

Help you to design your relationship your way and then use our expertise to show you how to rapidly achieve it.

Show you how to make subtle changes that will bring you the results that you want in your relationship.

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Relationships can be successfully repaired

Relationships can be successfully repaired if both parties want to repair the relationship.

Both sides must want to undertake whatever change is necessary to make this relationship work.

Sounds easy but it’s not. It will be hard work, but the results make it all worthwhile.

I don’t want to be told I am to blame
I never apportion blame. To do so is counterproductive. Whatever has happened are no more than facts that will help us find a solution.

I don’t want to be told what to do
Relationship counselling is not about forcing you to do things. Certainly, suggestions will be made but ultimately you are the one who decides what you want to do.

I should be able to work this out myself
That would be true if we were experts at everything. But we are not. If you are sick you go to a doctor and if your car is broken you go to a mechanic. As a counsellor, I am skilled in assisting you to find answers to your current dilemma.

I can just talk to my friends
Friends are happy to give you some support and advice but to repair a relationship they are likely to be out of their depth. Friends are not trained to deal with the complexities of people’s lives. They are unlikely to want to take on the responsibility for working with you to rebuild your relationship.

My partner doesn’t want to come
That can present some difficulties but does not make the situation unworkable. There are things that an individual can do to influence a relationship. It is worth coming even if your partner won’t.

I cannot afford it
Can you afford to lose your relationship along with the emotional and financial fallout involved? There is a cost either way. Consider the huge investment that you have made into your relationship to this point. Are you prepared to throw that away without seeing if repair is possible? My fees are more than reasonable for the results that I deliver. If, however, you genuinely cannot afford to pay them, I am open to discussing your situation and finding an affordable solution for you.

Relationship issues arise due to a basic principle
You are biologically wired to protect yourself from threat and pain. You are also biologically wired to connect emotionally with others. If the person that you are in a relationship with represents on some level a threat to you, then you want to connect but cannot. This situation leads to the uncomfortable position of wanting something but at the same time pushing it away. These actions are then in turn interpreted by your partner as you don’t love them.

Understanding why you see your partner as a threat is a fundamental step if your relationship is to be repaired successfully.

Why do you feel stuck?
Relationships develop through various stages. The first and most recognised stage is the initial honeymoon period. In the honeymoon period, the focus is on the things that you have in common giving rise to a feeling that “we are one”.

After a period of being together, you start to notice that your partner is different from you in many ways. Noticing differences is a normal part of relationship development but brings with it fears that you are growing apart, that you have little in common. Resentment sets in particularly if one partner starts to embrace their differences and the other partner is still holding on to the “we are one stage”.

Many couples get stuck at this stage which generated feelings of being left behind and rejected or feeling held back and smothered. Understanding how you can be different but be in a relationship together is one of the fundamental issues that need to be addressed for the relationship to develop to its full potential.

Noticing differences does not mean the end of the relationship but instead means that the relationship is growing and if properly supported through this time will lead to an enhanced experience for you both.

Individual issues become relationship issues
The relationship starts with us. The first person that we must relate to is ourselves. How good our relationship with ourselves is, flows into our other relationships. That is why so many things such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and low self-worth can tear a relationship apart over time. Often a poor relationship with ourselves is seen in one partner expecting the other to make them happy. Happiness is something that starts with you. You need to make yourself happy first.

The origin of the problem
Our concept of what it means to be in a relationship and how relationships work is founded on the type of relationship we experienced with our caregiver when we were a child. For example, unpredictable reactions from parents to our needs tend to leave us mistrusting close relationships. Neglect from our parents tends to cause us to rely heavily on ourselves and not trust others.

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Relationship Counselling is NOT about

  • Assigning blame
  • Finding fault
  • Judging people for their action
  • Telling you what to do

Relationship Counselling IS About

  • Understanding your world through your eyes
  • Understanding where you are now
  • Understanding where you want to be
  • Finding solutions that work for you as individuals in a relationship

Not in our local area? No Problem!

All our counselling services are available Face to Face via video conferencing (Telehealth)

Accessibility

  • Sessions can be conducted using a smartphone, tablet or a computer with a WebCam and microphone
  • Done over a secure meeting platform available on Android, Apple or Windows devices
  • Not limited by location (English is the only language supported at present)
  • Suitable for those unable to leave home, or who are physically disabled
  • Maybe preferred by those who embrace technology

Convenient for

  • Those uncomfortable with traditional in-office therapy
  • Those wanting to reduce costs by not having to travel
  • those wanting to check out a counsellor before actually committing to face-to-face in-office sessions
  • Short (less than one hour) follow-up sessions
  • Busy people for whom time is a limited resource

Reduces social stigma for

  • Those uncomfortable with coming to counselling rooms
  • Those in small communities who do not want to see someone who might know them or their family

Reduces anxiety

  • For those who feel anxious in social situations as it creates a feeling of physical distance between the counsellor and client
  • For those clients who do not want to leave their home and will, therefore, feel a sense of being in their comfort zone

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What our customers say

“Tracey has helped me immensely with both grief counseling and building life skills. She is
easy to talk to, understanding, and is very good at helping you see a situation in a different
light. She has helped me through numerous issues, and I have gained confidence through
what she’s taught me. I would highly recommend her. Very knowledgeable in many areas.”

“Vanessa has helped a lot of people I’ve worked with within the community through troublesome times in their lives, she’s been an inspiration to myself and others through her gift of being able to lighten the load of past and present issue’s people may have.. Very discreet and professional.. Thank you for the work you do for myself and others, keep up the excellent work Vanessa”

Have you made the decision to embrace change?

Then this is how we work with you.

Step 1

We will start with an initial session to take a close look at where you are now, where you want to be and we will make a plan together for how to get you there.

Step 2

Next, we will take our proven strategies and introduce them into your relationship.

Step 3

Finally, we will work with you to transform your relationship into one that is highly satisfying and delivers what you are looking for in a relationship.

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