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HOW TO HALT THE FOUR HORSEMAN OF TOXIC COMMUNICATION Part Four

  The Fourth Horseman is STONEWALLING Stonewalling occurs when someone completely withdraws from a conflict discussion and no longer responds to their partner.  It usually happens when you’re feeling inundated or emotionally overwhelmed, so your reaction is to shut down, stop talking, and disengage. When couples stonewall, they’re under a lot of emotional pressure. This pressure […]

HOW TO HALT THE FOUR HORSEMAN OF TOXIC COMMUNICATION – Part Three

The Third Horseman is DEFENSIVENESS Defensiveness is a self-protection mechanism which comes out in the form of moral outrage or evoking a sense of victimhood in an attempt to fend off a perceived attack. People often become defensive when they believe they are being criticized (First Horseman of Toxic Communication). Defensiveness is a way to push the […]

6 Ways to Beat the Stress of Uncertainty

Uncertainty is something that we experience individually first, but then it affects our relationships as our anxiety and frustrations grow. Whatever I can change on an individual level will bring about a change on a relationship level as well. How I am coping is not just my problem, but it becomes an overall problem for […]

HOW TO HALT THE FOUR HORSEMAN OF TOXIC COMMUNICATION – Part Two

The Second Horseman is CONTEMPT Contempt is the actions that convey the sense to another that they are worthless or beneath our consideration. It shows up when we make statements that come from a position of us being morally superior. Some good examples of this are name-calling, mockery, sarcasm, eye-rolling and degrading or hostile humour. Contempt […]

Who Am I?

Who Am I? While life follows a safe routine day-to-day, and I know what I’m doing and what’s likely to happen, I have a certain degree of security and an idea of who I am. However, life is currently changing, and we are not quite sure where it can end up or indeed, how it […]

Moving Out of Your Comfort Zone Safely

To achieve the things that you want in your relationship or your personal life, you will need to move out of your present comfort zone and make some changes. Moving out of your comfort zone is never easy as it feels unsafe and in general “Yuk”. THIS STEP WILL MAKE IT EASIER.  www.startpointcounselling.com.au 07 3458 1725